Developing Greater Self-Awareness as a Tool of Transformation

From the Kelly Chronicles…

The ego’s voice whispers in my ear, filling my thoughts with negative self-talk and stories of defeat. Despite my efforts to launch my Reiki business and share its empowering tools with others, success feels elusive. I question whether I should give up and pursue a traditional job. Breaking down emotionally, internally, I scream, “Why can’t I do this?!” 

In the past, I’ve given up when things didn’t go as planned, but I’m determined to break that pattern this time. I remind myself of the quote, “Don’t stop until you are insanely proud of yourself,” and with a newfound sense of confidence, I declare that I will not give up. I’ve rewired my thoughts and behavior patterns to build resilience and embrace discomfort as a necessary part of growth. With this newfound spark of empowerment, I am ready to face any obstacle that comes my way.

That is self awareness. That is transformation. That is power. I got it.

Do you ever find yourself going through life on autopilot, without really stopping to reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and actions? If so, you’re not alone. Many of us are so busy with the demands of work, family, and other responsibilities that we don’t take the time to tune into our inner selves.

But what if I told you that cultivating greater self-awareness could be the key to unlocking your full potential, enhancing your relationships, and living a more fulfilling life? In this post, we’ll explore the benefits of self-awareness, and provide tips for developing greater self-awareness in your own life.

Improved Decision-Making

When you are more self-aware, you are better able to recognize your own biases, patterns, and triggers. This can help you make more informed, rational decisions that align with your values and goals. For example, if you’re aware that you have a tendency to procrastinate when faced with a difficult task, you can take steps to break the task down into smaller, more manageable steps, or enlist the help of a coach or accountability partner to keep you on track.

Similarly, if you’re aware that you tend to get defensive or avoid conflict when faced with criticism or feedback, you can practice active listening and open communication to better understand and respond to the other person’s perspective. By developing greater self-awareness, you can become more intentional and purposeful in your decision-making, and better equipped to navigate life’s challenges with confidence and ease.

Enhanced Emotional Intelligence

Self-awareness can also help you better understand and regulate your own emotions, and recognize and empathize with the emotions of others. This is known as emotional intelligence, and it’s a key factor in effective communication, conflict resolution, and relationship-building.

For example, if you’re aware that you tend to get defensive or angry when someone disagrees with you, you can practice deep breathing, mindfulness, or other techniques to regulate your emotional response and stay calm and present in the moment. Similarly, if you’re aware that someone else is feeling anxious, sad, or frustrated, you can practice active listening and validation to acknowledge and support their feelings.

By cultivating greater emotional intelligence through self-awareness, you can foster more positive and fulfilling relationships with others, and become a more effective and empathic communicator.

Increased Self-Acceptance

Self-awareness can also help you recognize and accept your own strengths and weaknesses, and appreciate your unique qualities and contributions. This can lead to greater self-esteem, confidence, and resilience, and help you overcome negative self-talk and self-doubt.

For example, if you’re aware that you tend to be a perfectionist, you can practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes and learn from them. Similarly, if you’re aware that you tend to compare yourself to others, you can focus on your own progress and growth, and celebrate your own achievements and successes.

By developing greater self-acceptance through self-awareness, you can cultivate a more positive and empowering relationship with yourself, and become more resilient and adaptable in the face of adversity.

Improved Stress Management

Self-awareness can also help you recognize when you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or anxious, and take steps to manage these feelings. This can include practicing mindfulness, self-care, and boundary-setting, and seeking support from others when needed.

For example, if you’re aware that you tend to overwork and neglect your own needs when under stress, you can schedule regular breaks, exercise, or relaxation activities into your day to recharge and rejuvenate. Similarly, if you’re aware that you tend to take on too much and struggle to say no to others, you can practice setting boundaries and delegating tasks to others when appropriate.

By developing greater stress management skills through self-awareness, you can reduce the negative impact of stress on your physical and mental health, and enhance your overall well-being and quality of life.


In conclusion, developing greater self-awareness can be a powerful tool for transforming your life in numerous ways. Whether you’re seeking to improve your decision-making, enhance your emotional intelligence, increase your self-acceptance, or improve your stress management skills, self-awareness can provide the foundation for growth and positive change.

So, if you’re ready to take the first step towards greater self-awareness, start by setting aside some time each day for reflection, meditation, or journaling. Ask yourself questions like “What am I feeling right now?” “What are my strengths and weaknesses?” and “What are my values and goals?” Then, use this information to guide your decisions, interactions, and habits, and watch as your life begins to transform in exciting and empowering ways.

Looking for some ways to build self-awareness? This article from Positive Psychology has some great tips!


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Much love and light on your journey,